Do you perform same-sex weddings?
Is there any obligation if we want to set-up an initial meeting with you?
The initial 90 minute meeting is a no-obligation, get-to-know each other meeting.
What happens during our initial meeting?
Prior to our initial meeting I will email you a “wedding prep” form. Please fill out the form and bring it with you to our meeting. The form provides me the basic information about you as a couple and your wedding and serves as a guide for our meeting.
The objective of our initial 90 minute meeting is to get to know each so that: 1) you can decide if you want to retain me and; 2) I know enough about you so that I can recommend specific content for your wedding ceremony and send you ceremony template documents to get you started.
Do you require a contract?
Yes, I do ask that you sign a Letter of Agreement (LOA).
Do you require a deposit?
Yes, I ask a 50% deposit when you sign the LOA. The remaining 50% is due two weeks before your wedding date.
What happens after we sign the LOA and send you the deposit?
When I receive the signed LOA and your deposit I will email you several sample wedding ceremony templates – based on our initial meeting – so you can start creating your wedding ceremony.
Do you attend the rehearsal?
I make most of the rehearsals for which I’m contracted. However there are times when I am booked during your rehearsal time. We discuss your rehearsal needs during our initial meeting.
Are rehearsals included in your wedding fee?
No, the rehearsal is a separate rehearsal fee.
When do you arrive for the ceremony?
I arrive no later than 30 minutes before the ceremony.
What type of ceremonies do you perform?
I perform almost any and all types of wedding ceremonies including: traditional, contemporary, religious, spiritual, interfaith, cross-cultural, secular, non-religious and civil wedding ceremonies and everything in-between.
Do you work with couples from other faith backgrounds?
Yes. Over the years I have worked with couples from many faiths and belief backgrounds. Examples of the religions/faiths I’ve worked with include every branch of Christianity (Protestant, Catholic, Orthodox, Coptic, etc), Hindu, Jewish, Muslim, Buddhist, Taoist, Confucianism, Mormon, Jainism, Bahá’í, Atheist, Agnostics, secularists, and everything in-between.
Can I include a wedding tradition from my cultural heritage or national background?
Of course you can. I have worked with couples form many cultures and nationalities from around the globe. Some of the wedding traditions couples have included in their ceremonies include: Wine Box & Love Letter; Gaelic Hand-fasting and Oathing Stone; Sharing of a Sweet; Unity Candle; Sand Ceremony; Breaking of the Glass; Communion; Milk and Dates; Rose Ceremony; and the Filipino Veil, Cord, and Coin traditions- just to name a few.
Can we write our own ceremony/vows or do we have to use your materials?
You can do either. You can create your own ceremony from scratch or you can use any of the templates I send you. Couples regularly mix and match the templates I send them to create a customized ceremony.
What is included in the wedding fee?
The wedding fee includes the initial 90 minute consultation; as many telephone/email consultations needed to finalize your ceremony details; performing/officiating your ceremony; and, signing and submitting your marriage license.
Do we meet again in-person after the initial meeting and before the wedding?
In most cases a second in-person meeting isn’t needed but that is up to you. We can discuss this during our initial meeting because every couple’s ceremony needs are different.
How do we get our marriage license?
Please visit my “License info” page for information and links for marriage license information in Maryland, Virginia, and the District of Columbia.
What do you wear when you officiate a wedding?
I normally wear a black suit with either a white shirt and tie, or a clerical collar. I do wear clerical vestments when requested (NOTE: I do not wear clerical vestments outdoors in summer months).
Is premarital counseling/coaching required – do you provide premarital counseling/coaching?
No, it is not required, but it is available. Please see my section on premarital counseling/coaching for more information.
Will you need a microphone for the ceremony…what is your presentation style?
I consider my style relaxed but professional.
My need for a microphone is contingent on the venue and number of guests attending. As a professional public speaker I bring that extra stage presence to the ceremony with a well-trained voice and strong projection. But, we will cover this in our initial meeting.
What happens if you can’t make the ceremony?
I have missed only one wedding due to a family medical emergency. In the rare event that I cannot make the ceremony, I will do my best to find a replacement.